Why Did the Court Do That?

Sometimes you hear of a court case and immediately say "WHAT???"

Just think of the McDonalds Coffee Case, where the little old lady spilled coffee in the drive thru and sued McDonalds for Millions of Dollars and was eventually awarded 8 Million Dollars. WHAT???

Then there is this case out of New York. 

Read opinion (NY Unified Courts @ www.nycourts.gov)

Brett M.D. v. Elizabeth A.D.
972 N.Y.S.2d 36
(New York Supreme Court, Appellate Division, First Department, October 1, 2013)

             Regardless of the mother's allegations against the father regarding domestic violence and sexual abuse of the child, the Appellate Court found the proper venue was New York, not Florida where the Mother and Child were currently living. WHAT??? These incidents allegedly occurred in New York, the father had agreed to pay the child's travel expenses to New York for the proceedings and any related evaluations, and, whenever feasible, the court would permit mother to appear at proceedings telephonically from Florida, at little expense to her. WHAT??? Ok, the mother had moved to Florida with the child just one month before the father filed a custody case in New York, where the child was born and had lived most of his life. When you have all the facts the court reviewed, and not just the headlines from the paper, the answer may become more reasonable. Or not.

As attorneys, we are sometimes prevented from showing the court ALL THE FACTS. Sometimes "fact" is actually Opinion, and may even be biased. One side's view of facts is always distorted toward their view of the entire case. The other side doesn't want the "fact" interpreted a certain way, and expresses its Opinion of the reason for the "Fact" being presented . . . at Trial, anything can happen.

Oh, back to the McDonalds case. There were many facts that failed to make the news. You can read the Wikipedia account here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liebeck_v._McDonald%27s_Restaurants

When you have questions, call me 407-645-3297 or visit my website www.aubreylaw.com
I look forward to speaking with you!
 

Why Does Divorce have to be So Complex?

Divorce, according to Wikipedia is the termination of a marital union, the canceling of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and the dissolving of the bonds of matrimony between a married couple. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce

Simply put, Divorce ends a marriage. Why is that so Difficult?

Almost every week the New York Times contains an article about divorce, whether involving the children of divorce in a Broadway play, the Collaborative process, a documentary film about divorce in foreign lands, responses to the legislature's plans for "no-fault" divorce, http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/17/opinion/17coontz.html?pagewanted=all or salacious articles regarding specific persons and their problems with divorce, such as the media mogul Rupert Murdoch: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/14/business/media/rupert-murdoch-files-for-divorce-after-14-years-of-marriage.html
At least for Murdoch, the end may be near:
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/20/business/media/murdoch-divorce-said-to-be-almost-final.html?_r=0

If you pay attention to the news media, you might think divorce is either all too common or incredibly complex. Specific articles regarding divorce after 50,  http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/22/fashion/weddings/divorce-after-50-grows-more-common.html

You may observe that the "children of divorce" suffer years of trauma to their psyche. Even the participants in the divorce process may look to coaches or therapy sessions to help their adjustment to single life. http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/16/fashion/a-program-that-aims-to-lead-to-post-divorce-peace.html

Every major religion has teachings on Divorce, whether it be the requirement of a "get" for Jewish women to be divorced, Islamic requirements for an Imam's approval of the divorce. Even Scientologists have interesting issues:   http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/08/fashion/for-scientologists-divorce-is-no-simple-matter.html

An article last year detailed the Divorce Hotel where, in a weekend, couples could complete all the paperwork to finalize their divorce. The cost ranged between $3,500 and $10,000 depending on many factors. Unfortunately the Divorce Hotel is in the Netherlands! http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/27/business/the-divorce-hotel-a-true-weekend-getaway.html

Do you know why many lawyers support Same-sex marriage? Same-Sex DIVORCE!
We see in Mississippi the real national problem related to Same-sex marriage - no not those parochial concerns of religion - How do you get a divorce if you were married in Massachusetts and move to Texas? How do you get a divorce when the State of Texas doesn't even recognize the marriage? http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/28/us/mississippi-quest-for-a-same-sex-divorce.html

If you have questions regarding Alimony, Child Support, Equitable Distribution, Retirement Plans, Marital Property, call me 407-645-3297 or visit my website: www.aubreylaw.com
I look forward to helping you!

Another good UCF Post on Passing Unequal Shares in a Will

http://ucfgiving.org/?pageID=34&docID=25

When parents plan to divide their estate, problems may be forthcoming. From ancient times until today, unequal distribution causes envy and strife. If you want to save your family some pain, confusion and conflict, if you want to avoid probate altogether, Call me or visit my website. If you have questions, we have answers, www.aubreylaw.com
Thanks!

Social Security and Divorce? You have Questions, We have Answers!

UCF, my Alma Mater, does a Great Job in its Planned Giving Department. I wish I had time to write blog posts like this one: http://ucfgiving.org/?pageID=31&docID=508
You may have to review the article titled "How Divorce Can Affect Your Social Security" but it is well worth the read!
Covered are notes on how to get your Ex-spouse's Social Security to benefit you! We cover this in most divorces, but what you do not know can hurt your long term financial wellbeing.
When you have questions regarding Alimony, Social Security, Equitable Distribution in your complex divorce, call me. Or visit my website www.aubreylaw.com
I look forward to helping you.

What Makes a Great Marriage? What Makes a Better Divorce?

Saw a Blog today that listed 7 traits of a Great Marriage. It was very interesting, especially the part about not living on leftovers (not food but time)
You can read it here: http://davewillis.org/7-traits-that-separate-good-marriages-from-great-marriages/

As my office was being cleaned this past weekend, I found a copy of The Great Divorce, by C.S.Lewis. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Great_Divorce
THIS IS NOT A BOOK ABOUT DIVORCE!!!!
It is a religious book about the difference between Heaven and Hell. I enjoyed it and continue to paraphrase its ideas.

What I really want to do is combine these two works. A Great Marriage can come to an end for many reasons. It doesn't have to be a Bitter Fight. Sometimes over 20 years people just grow up differently. The saying goes:
                                "A Man marries a Woman hoping she will never change.
                                                              A Woman marries a Man hoping to change him.
                                                                                              They are Usually both wrong."

I prefer Collaborative Divorce because it allows for growth and change while maintaining and in many cases improving the lines of communication that Must Remain Intact when children or grandchildren are involved. How nice when parents can work together on their only Daughter's wedding without becoming the sideshow or headache of the affair.

If you have questions about Collaborative Divorce, Call me! 407-645-3297 or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com
I look forward to speaking with you!

What does a Top Tier Divorce Lawyer Offer?

The Top Ten List is here: http://tmagazine.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/09/27/power-of-10-the-secrets-of-an-a-list-divorce-attorney/?src=rechp

If you want to see how I measure up, visit my website www.aubreylaw.com or just call me: 407-645-3297.

Question: Do you have to pay Sisters who care for Mom and Dad as they grow older?

In Elder Care we often use home health aids whether trained or untrained. A new law scheduled for implementation January 1 of 2015 requires these workers be paid under federal minimum wage guidelines.

http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/24/opinion/home-care-in-the-home-stretch.html?src=rechp

Attention Veterans: Many are Available to Help

I am a veteran. If you are too, you should check out this website:

http://www.veteransaidbenefit.org/

 

Do you know about Veterans Aid and Attendance benefits?

visit: http://www.veteransaidbenefit.org/aid_and_attendance_pension_benefit.htm

 

The VA is trying to help, many people are also trying to help.

 

VA Launches Incentive to Increase the Dollar Benefit for Disability Claims

On August 1, 2013 the Department of Veterans Affairs division of Veterans Benefits Administration announced a substantial two year-long incentive for veterans filing claims under the new fully developed claim system.  This initiative takes effect on August 6, 2013 and runs through August 5, 2015.  For first-time claims for disability compensation – using a fully developed claim – VA will grant an additional year of benefit, if the claim is successful.  According to Thomas Day, chief training officer of the Senior Veterans Service Alliance, this is a substantial incentive to use fully developed claims.  Mr. Day used an example of a veteran rated at 60% disability who would normally receive $12,312 in his first year of an award under the traditional claim procedure but who could receive $24,624 in his first year of an award using the fully developed claim process.  Mr. Day also pointed out that for attorneys or agents who assist with appeals, this example may result in up to an additional $2,462 in fees for that attorney or agent who successfully represents the veteran using a fully developed claim depending on whether the incentive also applies to fully developed claim appeals.

The Department of Veterans Affairs announced this week that Veterans filing an original Fully Developed Claim (FDC) for service-connected disability compensation may be entitled to up to one-year of retroactive disability benefits. The retroactive benefits, which are in effect Aug. 6, 2013, through Aug. 5, 2015, are a result of a comprehensive legislative package passed by Congress and signed into law by President Obama last year.

"VA strongly encourages Veterans to work with Veterans Service Organizations to file Fully Developed Claims and participate in this initiative, since it means more money in eligible Veterans' pockets simply by providing VA the information it needs up front," said Allison A. Hickey, Under Secretary for Benefits. "At the same time, it helps reduce the inventory of pending claims by speeding the process."
Filing an FDC is typically the fastest way for Veterans to receive a decision on their claims because Fully Developed Claims require Veterans to provide all supporting evidence in their possession when they submit their claims. Often, this is evidence that VA legally must attempt to collect on the Veteran's behalf, which is already in the Veteran’s possession, or is evidence the Veteran could easily obtain, like private treatment records.
When Veterans submit such evidence with their claims, it significantly reduces the amount of time VA spends gathering evidence from them or other sources -- often the longest part of the claims process. While VA will still make efforts to obtain federal records on the Veterans' behalf, the submittal of non-federal records (and any federal records the Veteran may have) with the claim allows VA to issue a decision to the Veteran more quickly. Typically, VA processes FDCs in half the time it takes for a traditionally filed claim.
FDCs can be filed digitally through the joint, DoD-VA online portal, eBenefits (www.ebenefits.va.gov). VA encourages Veterans who cannot file online to work with an accredited Veterans Service Organization (VSO) who can file claims digitally on Veterans' behalf. While submitting an FDC provides a faster decision for any compensation or pension claim, only Veterans who are submitting their very first compensation claim as an FDC are potentially eligible for up to one-year of retroactive disability benefits under the newly implemented law.
FDCs help eliminate VA's claims backlog because they increase production of claims decisions and decrease waiting times. Also, VA assigns FDCs a higher priority than other claims which means Veterans receive decisions to their claim faster than traditional claims.
VA continues to prioritize other specific categories of claims, including those of seriously wounded, terminally ill, Medal of Honor recipients, former Prisoners of War, the homeless and those experiencing extreme financial hardship. As part of its drive to eliminate the claims backlog in 2015, VA also gives a priority to claims more than a year old.
In May, VA announced a new partnership with Veterans Service Organizations and others known as the "Community of Practice," an effort that seeks to reduce the compensation claims backlog for Veterans by increasing the number of FDCs filed by Veterans and their advocates.
VA is continuing to implement several initiatives to meet the Department’s goal to eliminate the claims backlog in 2015. In May, VA announced that it was mandating overtime for claims processors in its 56 regional benefits offices to increase production of compensation claims decisions through the end of FY 2013. In April, VA launched an initiative to expedite disability compensation claims decisions for Veterans who have a waited a year or longer
As a result of these initiatives, VA's total claims inventory remains at lower levels not seen since August 2011. The number of claims in the VA backlog – claims pending over 125 days – has been reduced by 17 percent compared to the highest point in March 2013.
Veterans can learn more about disability benefits on the joint Department of Defense—VA web portal eBenefits at www.ebenefits.va.gov, and the FDC program at www.benefits.va.gov/fdc.

 

In August, the Government Accountability Office (GAO ) released the details of its investigation of accreditation practices of the Department of Veterans Affairs' Office of General Counsel. Accreditation allows attorneys to assist veterans in applying for claims, and is regulated by the DVA-OGC. No one may assist a veteran in the preparation, presentation or prosecution of a claim for veterans benefits without this  'Accreditation' authority.  Four senators responsible for veteran’s issues commissioned the report from the GAO – which was highly critical of the oversight provided by the Office of General Counsel in granting accreditation authority and in administering ongoing accreditation requirements as well as the handling of complaints relating to individuals who are or who are not accredited.

The GAO report recommends the DVA-OGC should address the following concerns:
1. Ensure appropriate level resources to implement the accreditation program, including options for utilizing other VA components and resources outside of OGC.
2. Strengthen initial and continuing knowledge requirements for accreditation representatives.
3. Enhance communications with claimants, including reports of complaints related to their representation. Explore options for incorporating information about representation and veterans’ rights into existing communications and outreach efforts.
4. Address potentially abusive practices by representatives who lack accreditation, charge inappropriate fees, or sell financial products to claimants that are not in their best interest. VA should consider additional authority for such practices and to enforce program rules.

VA generally concurs with the GAO that these issues need to be addressed and in some cases the department will be taking corrective action to provide better oversight. Of particular concern to accredited attorneys and accredited agents at this point are the following actions that VA may initiate in the near future.

• Doing a better job of conducting background investigations for applications for accreditation from attorneys and agents.
• Working through the current backlog of yearly certifications of good standing and taking corrective action towards those who are not in good standing or who have not submitted their certification.
• Working on a solution to notify agents and attorneys who are deficient in completing CLE to provide proper notification and follow-up action. VA does keep track of those individuals completing CLE but does not notify those who are deficient. In addition VA does not notify or identify anywhere on its website those individuals who have submitted CLE or acknowledge compliant completion of their training.
• Looking at better training for attorneys and agents in order to make them more effective in representing claimants. A major complaint about attorneys and agents is that most are deficient in the knowledge to adequately handle all types of claims. Veterans service organizations, in particular, complain about the number of claim questions they regularly receive from accredited attorneys and accredited agents.
• Coming up with a better system of notifying claimants of their right to complain about representation and about the unlawful charging of fees. VA will most likely pursue congressional legislation to put teeth into its ability to punish accredited individuals who are not compliant and go after non-accredited individuals who are taking advantage of veterans.

Everyone should be aware that the Office of General Counsel generally recognizes that attorneys can charge a pre-filing consultation fee that is related to a claim but is not a part of the preparation, presentation and prosecution of a claim. The OGC allows that any accredited attorney or agent may charge a fee for any services not related to assistance with a claim. Of course, accredited attorneys and accredited agents can charge a reasonable fee for assistance after a notice of disagreement has been filed or if they are engaged for a fee to provide an initial claim by a disinterested third-party. Claim representatives of veterans service organizations are absolutely prohibited from charging any fee of any kind.

 

 

What is Domestic Violence? Definitions Change!

Wow, that is a Loaded Question!
Years ago movies routinely included scenes of a woman becoming distraught and "needing" a slap on the face to "snap out of it."

Thankfully, we live in a different society! Physical violence to enforce your will is NEVER acceptable. Even Vladimir Putin said in a recent New York Times (http://www.nytimes.com/) op-ed, "We must stop using the language of force and return to the path of civilized diplomatic and political settlement." http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/12/opinion/putin-plea-for-caution-from-russia-on-syria.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

Darrel Owens' article in today's Orlando Sentinel's detailed the 50 year marriage of Randy and Sharon Berridge. http://www.orlandosentinel.com/news/columnists/orl-darrylowens,0,3266830.columnist
The title, "Couple so Happy Together after 50 years" is sweet enough, but a disturbing first three paragraphs detail the time Randy pulled the distributer cap out of the car to prevent his wife fleeing the marital home. While the very next line indicates the couple laughed about it, such action today might be considered Domestic Violence!
What a change in 50 years.

Wikipedia (www.wikipedia.org) defines "Domestic Violence" as "a pattern of behavior" involving intimate or family relations taking many forms, "including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects, battery), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation. . . Domestic violence and abuse is not limited to obvious physical violence. Domestic violence can also mean endangerment, criminal coercion, kidnapping, unlawful imprisonment, trespassing, harassment, and stalking.^[5]"

The "Happy Couple" of yesterday fits the electronic world definition of Domestic Violence. Thankfully they were able to talk about their disagreements without resort to legal intervention.

Also thankfully, the limited story in the Sentinel might not meet the Florida Definition of Domestic Violence. The Florida Statutes define domestic Violence according to Section 741.28: Domestic Violence "means any assault, aggravated assault, battery, aggravated battery, sexual assault, sexual battery, stalking, aggravated stalking, kidnapping, false imprisonment, or any criminal offense resulting in physical injury or death of one family or household member by another family or household member, and includes, in Section 741.402, a threat of these, regardless of whether they have been reported to law enforcement.  http://www.leg.state.fl.us/Statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&Search_String=&URL=0700-0799/0741/Sections/0741.28.html
http://www.leg.state.fl.us/Statutes/index.cfm?App_mode=Display_Statute&Search_String=&URL=0700-0799/0741/Sections/0741.402.html

The Civilized Diplomatic and Political Settlement in areas of Family Law comes through Mediation and Collaboration. Collaborative Divorce removes threats by promoting reasoned analysis and solution.

If Domestic Violence is a part of your life and you want it to stop, call me at 407-645-3297. I may be able to help in ways you have yet to consider.

Please visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com for more information and links regarding Divorce, Child Support, Alimony, Equitable Distribution, and many other topics. I am an Attorney, licensed in Florida, practicing in the areas of Collaborative Divorce, Elder Law, Family Law, and Guardianships. I have helped numerous husbands, wives and families seek a fresh start.

Dividing Assets in Divorce

Who gets what when you get divorced? This is one of the questions most people think about when the topic of divorce comes up. The Answer? Equitable Distribution.

Equitable is not always Equal. Dividing up marital assets and deciding who has to pay which debts can be rather tricky, especially since the real estate crash. Beginning in 2007 and continuing until last year, many homes fell in value. Some Marital Homes lost more than 60% of their pre-crash value. Over 2013 we have begun to see reversals and many homes are once again gaining value and in some cases Equity. Is this the right time to file for Divorce? Call me at 407-645-3297 to set a time to discuss your particular situation. You can always visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com

Dividing Equity can usually be done either by trading other assets, including retirement accounts or buying out the other party's interest. Of course you know Equity is that portion of the value of the home that you own, that value above the mortgages. For example: A $250,000 home with a mortgage of $180,000 and a Home Equity Line of Credit (HELOC) of $20,000 would have Equity of $50,000. Were the owners to sell the home and divide the equity they could each receive $25,000 (Of course this assumes two owners, and no selling costs).

Equitable Distribution begins to get more complicated when the home is "underwater" owing more in mortgages than the actual value of the home. Owing more than a home is worth may lead parties to consider a "Strategic Default."

For example, someone who purchased their home in May, 2007, may owe more than twice what the home is worth. Home values in the Orlando area hit their peak according to Zillow.com (www.zillow.com) between May 2006 and August 2007. A home in the 32801 zip code purchased in May 2007 for $225,000 could be worth as little as $114,000 today due solely to market forces. Who is willing to pay the $200,000 mortgage still owing on the home that is worth so little today.

Strategic Default http://schott.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/03/26/strategic-defaults/ is the homeowners plan to default on the mortgage and stay in the home as long as possible, rent free, until the foreclosure is completed and the bank forces them out. The New York Times had this to say about Strategic Default.   http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/10/magazine/10FOB-wwln-t.html   You might think this is an awful thing to do, but the Home Mortgage Bankers Association did the same exact thing in Washington DC.  http://dealbook.nytimes.com/2011/02/04/mortgage-groups-old-building-flipped-for-a-profit/

When homeowners face foreclosure, the extra stress can lead them to consider divorce as one alternative. If you are facing divorce, call me or visit my website www.aubreylaw.com

I will be here to help.