Helping Senior Adults, Elder Law 101

People ask me, "What is Elder Law?"

I answer, it is helping older Americans with problems that come up primarily due to age. You realize of course that after a certain number of years, thoughts of death become more prevalent and preparation becomes much more important. Children become adults and begin asking, "What do I do about my parents?" When parents begin needing assistance, adult children bear a great burden. They may have children of their own in school or starting out and suddenly, Mom needs a new place to live that will provide nursing care. These problems are not new; our processes of dealing with care of the elderly is not new. All over the globe, seniors are afforded great respect and care. Only in the United States do we warehouse seniors in "adult communities," Assisted Living Facilities and Nursing homes.

When Daddy needs nursing care, what questions should be answered?
First: How much care is needed?
Second: How much care can he afford?
Third: Who is responsible to pay when Daddy cannot?

Other questions that may come up include:

What about Social Security, and Medicare?
Do we need to do "Medicaid Planning?"
What is Medicaid Planning?

Parents may not wish to discuss their finances with adult children and may feel freer to discuss the details of planning with an Elder Law Professional. Many times parents have begun the process, but children are kept in the dark for fear that the children will want to "inherit" early. Many seniors have received advice regarding Medicaid Planning over the radio or television but may not understand fully the details. Many seniors worry about losing their homestead or the equity they have built up over the years. In Florida, we protect homesteads. The equity in the home can survive incapacity and death provided simple steps are taken to preserve all the rights afforded to homeowners.

When Medicaid begins to enter the conversation  with regard to health care, it may be too late. Most Health care Decisions must be made quickly; however, medicaid planning may require as much as 5 years to be fully effective.

When you are faced with these and other questions, Call me at 407-645-3297, or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com

Brighter Days Ahead

Its raining again. When it Rains, it Pours. Sometimes troubles come, sometimes they stick around a while.

Alzheimers can be like that. It shows up, and won't go away. Many times the "episodes" can be overlooked. It doesn't happen very often, its just a nuissance. Forgetful. Oops.

As people age, some of the normal progressions may become exagerated and excuses become more frequent.

Know when to say when. When you need help, ask. Friends, Family, Organizations and others stand by ready to lend a helping hand. Before it pours. Before you lose control.

Call me. 407-645-3297 at the office. 407-718-5678 is my cell. I am here to help.

Happy Anniversary Baby, Got You on my Mind

21 years ago, I married Laurie. We dated for more than a year and were engaged more than 9 months. At the time, I was a sailor in the U.S. Navy; she was an attorney at the lawfirm of Maguire, Voorhis and Wells in Orlando. I do not know the secret to a happy marriage; in reality I have learned more about marriage from the couples I counsel in Divorce cases. Many petty squabbles will doom any marriage not based in Mutual Love and Respect. Marriage is in fact a Partnership. Both parties must give. How much? Not 50/50. Each party must give 100% effort to the cause for a marriage to last. Even then, health concerns later in life can strain even the best marriage. Practicing in Elder Law and Family Law has allowed me to work with people who after 40, 50 and even 60 years have decided to end their marriage. This truly puts my 21 years into perspective. That said, I love you, Laurie.