Working Through a Collaborative Divorce? Get Creative!

For many couples, collaborative divorce is an attractive alternative to divorcing through litigation. With a collaborative divorce, the couple works together – each with their own individual lawyer – to draft the divorce settlement that best fits their needs. This means they can go outside the guidelines for property division, alimony, and parenting plans imposed by Florida law to create an arrangement that truly suits their unique needs and family dynamics. If you are considering a collaborative divorce for this reason, though, it is always in your best interest to discuss the law’s divorce guidelines with an experienced lawyer to understand why they exist and how you can avoid creating a divorce settlement that goes against your interests.

 

Tell your Spouse What you Really Want

 

Under Florida law, a divorcing couple’s marital assets are divided according to the doctrine of equitable distribution. This means they are not necessarily divided equally, but according to each partner’s personal needs.

 

With a collaborative divorce, you and your spouse decide how you want to divide your marital assets. If you really want a specific asset, like ownership of your vacation property, use this opportunity to voice your preference and what you are willing to “give up” in order to achieve your divorce goal. You can even come up with creative ways to split your assets, like sharing the vacation property with a timeshare-like agreement.

 

Create a Custom Parenting Plan for your Children

 

When the court develops a parenting plan, it follows the guidelines set in Florida law to develop the plan that best serves the child’s personal needs. Creating a plan that is in your child’s best interest is always something you should strive to do.

 

But when you are in charge of your parenting plan, rather than the court, you have more flexibility and control to create the plan that works best for your family. In many cases, this is easiest when you have help from a child custody evaluator. The parenting plan you develop might deviate a lot from the “typical” shared parenting plan like the child spending the bulk of his or her time with one parent and every other weekend with the other parent. Yours might involve split weeks or even a modern take on coparenting like a birdnesting arrangement. With a collaborative divorce, you craft the parenting plan that suits your family’s needs.

 

Find Ways to Create a Settlement that Makes you Both Happy

 

Maybe you would rather take a larger share of your marital savings than seek alimony. Or maybe you want to liquidate as much of your marital assets as possible and use the funds to start fresh on the next chapter of your life. These types of arrangement are possible with collaborative divorce. The only limit to your ideal, self-directed settlement is your spouse’s willingness to work cooperatively with you to reach it.

 

Work with an Experienced Winter Park Divorce Attorney

 

If you are considering a collaborative divorce, work with a Winter Park divorce lawyer who has extensive experience handling this type of divorce. Contact our team at Sperling Ducker PLC today to set up your initial legal consultation with a member of our team.

 

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Relocation with your Child

When a client called today to discuss relocation, I thought I should ad a Relocation note to this blog.

 

 As you review, please realize there is no consideration for high assets or significant income inequality in consideration under these rules.

 

Relocation is covered by Florida Statute 61.13001. In the absence of an agreement between the parties, a court must answer the following questions in order to determine Relocation is in the Best Interests of the Child. (Best Interests of the Child is the standard, NOT best interests of the Adult)

the court shall evaluate all of the following:

(a) The nature, quality, extent of involvement, and duration of the child’s relationship with the parent or other person proposing to relocate with the child and with the nonrelocating parent, other persons, siblings, half-siblings, and other significant persons in the child’s life.

 

(b) The age and developmental stage of the child, the needs of the child, and the likely impact the relocation will have on the child’s physical, educational, and emotional development, taking into consideration any special needs of the child.

 

(c) The feasibility of preserving the relationship between the nonrelocating parent or other person and the child through substitute arrangements that take into consideration the logistics of contact, access, and time-sharing, as well as the financial circumstances of the parties; whether those factors are sufficient to foster a continuing meaningful relationship between the child and the nonrelocating parent or other person; and the likelihood of compliance with the substitute arrangements by the relocating parent or other person once he or she is out of the jurisdiction of the court.

 

(d) The child’s preference, taking into consideration the age and maturity of the child.

 

(e) Whether the relocation will enhance the general quality of life for both the parent or other person seeking the relocation and the child, including, but not limited to, financial or emotional benefits or educational opportunities.

 

(f) The reasons each parent or other person is seeking or opposing the relocation.

 

(g) The current employment and economic circumstances of each parent or other person and whether the proposed relocation is necessary to improve the economic circumstances of the parent or other person seeking relocation of the child.

 

(h) That the relocation is sought in good faith and the extent to which the objecting parent has fulfilled his or her financial obligations to the parent or other person seeking relocation, including child support, spousal support, and marital property and marital debt obligations.

 

(i) The career and other opportunities available to the objecting parent or other person if the relocation occurs.

 

(j) A history of substance abuse or domestic violence as defined in s. 741.28 or which meets the criteria of s. 39.806(1)(d) by either parent, including a consideration of the severity of such conduct and the failure or success of any attempts at rehabilitation.

 

(k) Any other factor affecting the best interest of the child or as set forth in s. 61.13.

 Of course, (k) introduces a completely new set of factors for the court to consider in determining the Best Interests of the Child.

Section (3) of Florida Statutes 61.13 is as follows:
For purposes of establishing or modifying parental responsibility and creating, developing, approving, or modifying a parenting plan, including a time-sharing schedule, which governs each parent’s relationship with his or her minor child and the relationship between each parent with regard to his or her minor child, the best interest of the child shall be the primary consideration. A determination of parental responsibility, a parenting plan, or a time-sharing schedule may not be modified without a showing of a substantial, material, and unanticipated change in circumstances and a determination that the modification is in the best interests of the child. Determination of the best interests of the child shall be made by evaluating all of the factors affecting the welfare and interests of the particular minor child and the circumstances of that family, including, but not limited to:

(a) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship, to honor the time-sharing schedule, and to be reasonable when changes are required.

 

(b) The anticipated division of parental responsibilities after the litigation, including the extent to which parental responsibilities will be delegated to third parties.

 

(c) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to determine, consider, and act upon the needs of the child as opposed to the needs or desires of the parent.

 

(d) The length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity.

 

(e) The geographic viability of the parenting plan, with special attention paid to the needs of school-age children and the amount of time to be spent traveling to effectuate the parenting plan. This factor does not create a presumption for or against relocation of either parent with a child.

(f) The moral fitness of the parents.

 

(g) The mental and physical health of the parents.

 

(h) The home, school, and community record of the child.

 

(i) The reasonable preference of the child, if the court deems the child to be of sufficient intelligence, understanding, and experience to express a preference.

 

(j) The demonstrated knowledge, capacity, and disposition of each parent to be informed of the circumstances of the minor child, including, but not limited to, the child’s friends, teachers, medical care providers, daily activities, and favorite things.

 

(k) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to provide a consistent routine for the child, such as discipline, and daily schedules for homework, meals, and bedtime.

 

(l) The demonstrated capacity of each parent to communicate with and keep the other parent informed of issues and activities regarding the minor child, and the willingness of each parent to adopt a unified front on all major issues when dealing with the child.

 

(m) Evidence of domestic violence, sexual violence, child abuse, child abandonment, or child neglect, regardless of whether a prior or pending action relating to those issues has been brought. If the court accepts evidence of prior or pending actions regarding domestic violence, sexual violence, child abuse, child abandonment, or child neglect, the court must specifically acknowledge in writing that such evidence was considered when evaluating the best interests of the child.

 

(n) Evidence that either parent has knowingly provided false information to the court regarding any prior or pending action regarding domestic violence, sexual violence, child abuse, child abandonment, or child neglect.

 

(o) The particular parenting tasks customarily performed by each parent and the division of parental responsibilities before the institution of litigation and during the pending litigation, including the extent to which parenting responsibilities were undertaken by third parties.

 

(p) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to participate and be involved in the child’s school and extracurricular activities.

 

(q) The demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to maintain an environment for the child which is free from substance abuse.

 

(r) The capacity and disposition of each parent to protect the child from the ongoing litigation as demonstrated by not discussing the litigation with the child, not sharing documents or electronic media related to the litigation with the child, and refraining from disparaging comments about the other parent to the child.

 

(s) The developmental stages and needs of the child and the demonstrated capacity and disposition of each parent to meet the child’s developmental needs.

 

(t) Any other factor that is relevant to the determination of a specific parenting plan, including the time-sharing schedule.

 

Again, the court is allowed to consider "ANY OTHER FACTOR THAT IS RELEVANT!"

 

It is imperative to have an attorney that understands these factors and how to present evidence on each one.

 

Call today: 407-645-3297 or visit Aubreylaw.com for a consultation on your particular case!

10 Hours in Mediation?

Last Thursday, I spent 10 hours in mediation with a client. We came prepared to settle the matter, but it took until afternoon for the other side to even give us the "number" they were seeking. At the end of the day, no resolution occurred, primarily because everyone was too tired to spend the time reviewing the Marital Settlement Agreement. Sometimes parties choose the wrong attorney to represent them. Other attorneys are stuck working to educate the client when their attorney sets up unreasonable expectations.

In thinking about this, I came across the following article I wrote more than 8 years ago.

Ring That Bell

There are many ways to ring a bell. The large Wheel in the background is attached to a one-inch rope passing from the steeple of the First Baptist Church in America to the Music Director's office. Pulling the rope rotates the bell to strike the large "ball clapper." In this manner the bell rotates and the clapper is relatively stationary. The use of a one inch rope, indicates the weight of the bell and the potential momentum imparted to the person pulling on the rope.

The steeple also has a clock. The clock has a mechanism to ring the bell on the hour and 1/2 hour by use of the "hammer or "alternate clapper." The clock mechanism can't produce the force necessary to move the entire bell, thus the use of a much lighter hammer.

The hammer also attaches to a much smaller rope passing from the steeple to the interior of the church. Pulling the much smaller rope rings the bell, but the bell remains relatively stationary.

All this to say there are many ways to ring a bell.

There are also many ways to pursue your legal rememdy. Choosing an attorney who understands the differences between Litigation and Mediation, between Fighting it Out and Working it Out, can mean the difference between years of litigation and moving on with your life.

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What Does the Law Require?

I cannot believe it has been more than 8 years since I originally penned this article. Still apropos especially given the current administration gutting of the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau and appointing a new Director who feels the CFPB is unnecessary and burdensome to Wall Street.

Many questions to attorneys ask, "What is required by Law" in a given situation.
Sometimes the Law requires less than our own Morality might believe is due. Other times, the Law may require significantly More than we truly believe is due and oweing.

One example can be found in Credit Card Interest Rates. We borrow money and expect to pay interest until the debt is extinguished. What we do not expect is that our creditor, be it Visa, MasterCard, AmericanExpress or Discover, will work to collect every dollar possible under the contract.

We all know and expect we will owe interest, perhaps even cash advance fees on credit cards. What we do not expect is for a Credit Card Company to lower the "Available Credit" to a point below our current "Outstanding Balance." When Overlimit fees apply, Minimum Payments go Up! If the Minimum Payment is not made we expect to pay a penalty; however, when the Lowered Available Credit causes an Overbalance condition with additional fees, and the Required Minimum Payment is increased by the Total Amount Over Limit, what was once a $150 or $250 payment is suddenly and UNEXPECTEDLY a Minimum Payment Due of $765 or worse. Additionally, the $39 overlimit fees along with the increased Interest Rate due to being Overlimit (usually a jump in interest of 10% to 25%) make the Credit Card Company a SIGNIFICANT REVENUE SOURCE. Why do you think the credit companies extend credit and solicit new credit even when people are making minimum payments?

All this as an example of What Does the Law Require. A new law gives consumers significantly more protection from the "legal" overreaching by credit companies. You can get more information at the following websites:

http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/obama-signs-credit-card-law-1282.php

 

http://www.dailyfinance.com/2009/08/20/new-credit-card-laws/

http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/credit-card-act-takes-effect-1282.php

The 8 Major Benefits of the new Law can be found here: http://www.bankrate.com/finance/credit-cards/8-major-benefits-of-new-credit-card-law-1.aspx

The real key is to Know What the Law Requires, and don't allow Fear or Intimidation to force you to do what the Law does not or cannot require.

 

To answer your questions, contact an attorney at our website: aubreylaw.com or FloridaGuardianAttorney.com

How do you Work Out Terms in a Collaborative Divorce

Working Out the Terms of your Spousal Support Agreement in a Collaborative Divorce

Spousal support, also known as alimony, is an issue that arises in many Florida divorces. It is the money one partner pays to the other after their divorce, generally for a fixed period of time but sometimes, until the receiving spouse remarries or either partner dies. This money is intended to help the spouse who opted out of the full-time workforce to care for the couple’s home and children during the marriage to avoid financial hardship.

 In a collaborative divorce, the divorcing couple works together to make their own determinations about their divorce settlement, rather than having the court make them. Alimony is often an issue discussed during collaborative divorces alongside parenting time and the division of the couple’s marital assets.

In Florida, you Can Waive your Right to Seek Spousal Support

Florida law permits individuals to waive their right to seek alimony in the event of their divorces in prenuptial agreements. This is not the case in all states.

Just like a collaborative divorce, a prenuptial agreement requires a couple to be flexible and willing to work together to make determinations that benefit them both, even in unpleasant situations like divorce.

Waiving Spousal Support in Exchange for a Larger Share of Marital Assets

When you divorce through collaboration, rather than litigation, you and your spouse work together to reach a divorce agreement that best fits your needs. In any divorce, dividing your marital assets is a component of the final settlement and often, it is the largest component of the settlement. Talk about potentially opting out of alimony in exchange for a more favorable share of your marital assets with your spouse, but also with your lawyer privately – there could be issues you do not initially recognize, like large tax burdens associated with certain marital assets or the long-term impact of choosing not to create an alimony order.

Collaborative Divorce is All About Keeping Control of your Divorce

Couples who choose collaborative divorce are often more satisfied with the results of their divorces than couples who divorce through litigation.

If you took on lower-paying jobs or opted out of the workforce completely during your marriage, alimony is a way to protect your financial future. Do not confuse the need to be amicable in a collaborative divorce with a need to agree with everything your spouse suggests. If you feel alimony is in your best interest, explain this and support your position with relevant facts during your collaborative divorce meetings. Your lawyer is your advocate, but you also need to advocate for yourself.

Work with an Experienced Winter Park Divorce Lawyer

When you are considering divorce, you have a lot on your mind. Before you begin the collaborative divorce process, discuss these issues with your divorce lawyer so you begin the process educated about Florida’s divorce laws and what you can expect given your case’s unique circumstances. Contact The Law Offices of Aubrey Harry Ducker, Jr., P.L.C. today to schedule your initial consultation with us.

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Talking to Your Spouse about Collaborative Divorce

When you have reached a point in your marriage where you know it is over, it is not always easy to have calm, grounded conversations with your partner.  
                                      
If you can manage to speak amicably, you can make the divorce process much easier for yourselves. One significant way you can make the divorce process easier is to choose a collaborative divorce.

If your spouse is not familiar with the concept of collaborative divorce, discuss it. Get all the information you can and have a kitchen table talk. There are many benefits for you both if you choose this type of divorce. Below are a few tips you can use to start and work through this discussion.

Present it in an Objective Way

Rather than trying to convince your spouse that a collaborative divorce is best for you, present it in an objective way. Contrast collaborative divorce with a traditional courtroom divorce and mediation, which could also be a route to explore for your divorce. Talk about the processes associated with each. Consider the costs of each. Consider where these costs will be paid.

Discuss the Benefits of Collaborative Divorce for your Divorce

Consider discussing the benefits of collaborative divorce in an objective way, like citing cost comparisons between the different divorce methods. During this discussion, bring up the reasons why you feel a collaborative divorce is ideal for you, which could be your ability to work together amicably or your desire to split your marital assets in a specific way, making it necessary that you retain control of the divorce process. Your reasons might not be more specific than that you want to save money, and there is nothing wrong with that. Your reasons for wanting to try collaboration are valid, as are any hesitations your spouse might have.

Encourage your Spouse to Do His or Her Own Research

You cannot decide how you will divorce on your own. Give your spouse the time to do his or her own research on the process and if he or she raises objections, listen to them. Your spouse might have a very different point of view about your marriage and how well you can be served by a collaborative divorce. It is important that you remember not to try to convince your spouse to agree to a collaborative divorce because it is what you want, but to work with him or her to determine the ideal divorce method for your divorce. If you cannot reach this initial agreement amicably, collaborative divorce probably is not right for you.

Work with an Experienced Winter Park Divorce Lawyer

If you are considering using collaborative law to end your marriage, work with a divorce lawyer who has experience handling collaborative divorces. Even though you are in control of the divorce when you choose collaboration, your lawyer can provide you with the essential legal advice and representation you need to successfully complete the process. To get started, contact The Law Offices of Aubrey Harry Ducker, Jr., P.L.C. today to set up your flat-rate consultation with us, either in our office or at your preferred location.

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Overwhelming Numbers

Chief Judge Fredrick Lawton announced this week that one of two Business Court judges would be transferred to the Family Court Division beginning in January. This is to relieve the family court judges who currently have more than 25,000 open cases.

Many family court cases involve unrepresented parties at critical times in their lives. The emotional impact of family court cases affect children, parents, extended family and friends in many and various ways.

The recent shooting in Texas, ostensibly caused by a family conflict where the shooter was targeting his former mother in law was not the cause of this change, but is a startling example of the potential harm engendered in many family matters. Judge Lawton introduced this plan at the OCBA meeting last Thursday and stressed the need for more judges in the circuit. Although studies have shown a need for more than 7 additional judges in the Ninth Circuit over the past few years, no new judges have been added by the legislature for the past 10 years.

Unfortunately, Florida is learning what low taxes and tightening budgets means for the basic functions of government. As the Legislature continues its war against the Judiciary, the citizens of Florida suffer. By lowering funding from the budget for courts, the legislature has made the courts focus on revenues generated by filing fees, fees for services, fines and penalties. These fees transfer the costs of the court system to litigants and offenders but reduce the overall effectiveness of courts for the average citizen who may feel excluded from access to the justice system overall due to the high cost of litigation.

While big businesses and corporations routinely ad costs of litigation to their budgets and pass these on to consumers, citizens as individuals can rarely plan such expenditures. Corporations employ in-house counsel and hire law firms to advance their interests both in litigation and in lobbying the legislature for limits on liability and restrictions on lawsuits that could harm their bottom line. Again, John Q. Public does not normally enjoy these opportunities.

When your family faces a crisis, call on an attorney who knows how to solve problems rather than exacerbate the situation. We practice Collaborative Divorce, Elder Law, Family Law and Guardianship as well as representing families in Educational problems.

Visit our website at www.aubreylaw.com and let us know how we can assist your family.

Separating your Finances Before you File for Divorce

Finance-related conflicts are one of the top reasons why American couples divorce. For the most part, all financial actions an individual takes during his or her marriage are actions made on behalf of the couple. This means that if one party accrues debt, the other can be liable for it.

If you know your marriage is headed for divorce, there are a few things you can do before you actually file your divorce paperwork to make the divorce process less stressful. One of these is separating your finances from your spouse’s. Although you might not be able to completely separate your finances without the court’s aid, you can certainly take a few steps to start the process. If you are married to an individual who is rapidly accruing debt or making poor decisions with your marital funds, make it a priority to separate yourself financially from him or her as soon as you can.

Separating your finances before you file for divorce should never be done in an effort to hide assets from your spouse or hoard them for yourself. Doing so most likely will backfire on you. Be honest and transparent with your spouse about all your financial decisions and explain why you want to separate them ahead of the divorce.

Work with a Financial Advisor

In Florida, a divorcing couple’s assets are divided equitably. This means that both parties receive an appropriate share of marital property according to their contributions to the marriage and their individual needs after the divorce. To get a clear picture of your marital estate, work with a financial advisor.

Using the information from your financial advisor and guidance from a divorce lawyer, you can begin the process of separating your finances. Your spouse and his or her lawyer also need to be part of this arrangement.

Close Joint Accounts and Transfer Balances to Separate Credit Cards

One of the easiest ways to make the asset division process easier is to close your joint checking, savings, and credit card accounts. Divide the money within checking and savings accounts between yourselves and transfer it to new, separate accounts. For your credit card debt, work out a way to pay down as much of it as possible. If you still carry a balance, transfer it to two new, separate cards.

Transfer Titles to your Property

If you have assets that have both your names on the title, transfer the titles so they become separate assets. Generally, couples do this with their vehicles. If you know you want to retain the marital home, you can also do this with the house in conjunction with a refinance.

Refinancing to Separate your Assets

Talk to your lawyer about your options for refinancing large assets like your house. This can be part of buying out your spouse’s interest in the property. Your divorce does not have to be final for you to refinance the home in your name only.

Work with an Experienced Winter Park Divorce Lawyer

Contact The Law Office of Aubrey Harry Ducker, Jr., P.L.C. today to schedule your initial consultation with an experienced Winter Park divorce lawyer. During your consultation, we can discuss separating your finances while your divorce is pending and strategies for handling your property division.

https://www.marriage.com/advice/divorce/10-most-common-reasons-for-divorce/

 

Who Else Benefits from a Collaborative Divorce?

Many couples choose collaborative divorce because of its benefits, like its low cost compared to litigation, the non-combative nature of the process, and the greater likelihood that they will reach a mutually satisfying settlement through collaboration. The benefits of collaborative divorce do not stop here. Many other people in a divorcing couple’s lives, particularly their children, can reap significant benefits from the couple’s choice to do a collaborative divorce.

If you are considering collaborative divorce, think about how your choice will impact the other people in your life now and those who might enter it in the future. Of course, the decision to divorce through collaboration should be made according to whether it is the right choice for you and your spouse – if it is the right choice, its benefits will ripple to your other relationships.

The most important aspect of a collaborative divorce is the actual act of working together with a spouse to create a divorce settlement that benefits both parties. Collaborative problem solving is a skill that a divorced individual can continue to use in interactions with the former spouse and new partners in the years that follow his or her divorce.

Your Children

After you and your spouse, your children are the ones who can benefit the most from your collaborative divorce. This is because through the collaborative process, you are the ones to determine your parenting plan, rather than the court. You know your children and their needs best and if you and your spouse are willing to work together, can develop an ideal parenting plan that promotes productive co-parenting.

Your Families and Mutual Friends

When a couple divorces, it is natural for their families and friends to feel they have to “take sides.” This can be very difficult for individuals who are equally good friends with both halves of a couple and even family members who have grown attached to their in-laws. Choosing collaboration generally makes it possible for the divorcing couple to remain on good terms, which can make the divorce easier for their friends and loved ones.

Your Future Partners

You or your spouse might date again. You might even marry again and have more children with a new partner. Having a poor relationship with a former spouse can hurt new relationships, especially when there are children involved. Effectively communicating and co-parenting with a former partner can make it easier for a new partner to enter your life and your children’s lives. It can also make maintaining this new relationship easier by eliminating the chance for conflict with a former partner on issues related to your children.

Work with an Experienced Winter Park Collaborative Divorce Lawyer

Before you commit to a collaborative divorce, speak with an experienced Winter Park divorce lawyer about the specifics of your case. Your lawyer could find that collaboration is right for you or he or she could steer you in a direction better suited for your case. Contact The Law Offices of Aubrey Harry Ducker, Jr., P.L.C. today to set up your flat-rate consultation in our office.

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Four Mistakes to Avoid with your Collaborative Divorce

Choosing a collaborative divorce over ending your marriage in the courtroom can save you time, money, and stress. Simply making the choice to divorce this way is not a guarantee that the divorce will be easy, though. You can make mistakes during your collaborative divorce that set the process back, cost you money, and can make it impossible to complete the process. Understanding these mistakes before you begin the divorce process is the key to avoiding them.

 Number 1:  Refusing to Compromise with your Spouse

 A collaborative divorce only works when you are willing to compromise with your spouse. Before your first collaborative divorce meeting, sit with your lawyer and make a list of your priorities for the divorce, ranked from highest to lowest. Brainstorm the compromises you are willing to make and those on which you stand firm. If you are not willing to budge at all, you will not be able to reach a mutually satisfying settlement.

 #2:  Being So Willing to Compromise that you Do Not Advocate for Yourself

 The opposite of refusing to budge on your priorities is being so willing to acquiesce to your spouse that you come away from the divorce with nothing you wanted. Remember, this is your divorce too. These are your marital assets, your children, and your future. Be willing to advocate for yourself and know when to put your foot down.

 3: Not Taking Care to Anticipate and Manage Disagreements

 You should know where you and your spouse stand on issues like alimony and parenting time before you start working on your collaborative divorce. When you identify your priorities with your lawyer, brainstorm ways to resolve the conflicts that you think will arise. Talk about these conflict resolution strategies with your spouse before the meetings as well and stick to the resolution protocol that you establish.

 4.           Being Unrealistic About your Divorce’s Outcome

 Your lawyer can help you bring your expectations for the divorce in a realistic direction. Unless your spouse is violent, suffers from a crippling addiction, or otherwise puts your children in danger when they are together, chances are you will not have sole custody of the children. Similarly, do not expect to come away from the divorce with all of your marital assets simply because you worked outside the home while your spouse worked as a homemaker. You are both entitled to a fair share of your marital assets and the opportunity to maintain a consistent relationship with your children. Enter the divorce process knowing that although you will probably not get exactly what you want, you can work with your spouse to reach a settlement that gets you pretty close.

 Ok, how about a 5th? Not working with an Experienced Collaborative Attorney

 

Work with an Experienced Winter Park Collaborative Divorce Lawyer

 A collaborative divorce is a great way to complete the divorce process in an amicable, stress-free way. If you are interested in ending your marriage through this process instead of the traditional courtroom divorce, contact The Law Offices of Aubrey Harry Ducker, Jr., P.L.C. today to schedule your initial consultation with an experienced collaborative divorce lawyer in Winter Park.

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