Case Law Update 2012

Learning goes on and on and on . . .
Today, I attended the Webinar provided by the Florida Bar on Family Law Issues from cases this year.
Always good to update your knowledge regarding what the courts are doing, and what the appellate courts are saying about what the courts are doing.
In the past year, Grandparents' Rights, Alimony, adultery, Parenting Plans, Timesharing, paternity, domestic violence, Enforcement and Fees were only a few of the issues considered for the courts' action this year.
When you are selecting an attorney to represent your family in court, ask what courses of study have been completed to remain up to date on the law of the state. 
The 5th DCA clarified the Relocation statute as to the 50-mile rule.
The 2nd DCA clarifited allocation of outstanding expenses for child support to the proportion of income of the parties rather than 50/50 as many agree.
The First DCA clarified a "supportive relationship" and whether it would end alimony.
These are but a very few of the 20 pages of cases reviewed. If you have questions of a legal nature call an attorney.
If you have questions regarding Collaborative Divorce, Elder Law, Family Law or Guardianships, Call me! 407-645-3297 or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com

Happy Birthday to My Son

Words are inadequate to express the love of a father for his only son. In my son, I see all my hopes and dreams, yet I cannot help but acknowledge the fears and regrets as well. For all the times I was too busy to play his game, or watch his TV show, or play legos, or build forts, I will be forever sorry. But for all the things I have taught him over the years, for all the days we have explored National Parks, Hiked Trails, Swam in Springs, Climbed Mountains, visited Stadiums, and so many more places, I will be forever thankful.

J.R. took my highschool name as his own several years ago. I have to admit I almost cried when at a wrestling match, a cute girl yelled for him during warmups. Today, my baby is 16, and I feel older than dirt.

Forgive me not writing more, but I am off to let him drive me around on several errands to visit clients and deliver special documents.

Happy Birthday.

Divroce and Child Custody (Timesharing in the 2010 era)

When a couple divorces, their children often feel the pain.

Parents may be relieved, but the children can experience greater loss than the parent may appreciate. Justifications, such as, "they will be better off not having all the fighting in the house" seldom compensate for the loss of the other parent in the home.

For Teens, the loss includes supervision and observation, for younger children, feelings of security and comfort.

Of course there are exceptions. When the marriage and home life has been marked by domestic violence, fighting, inconsistencies, disparate treatments, etc. the children may be as relieved as the parents that the decision to separate has Finally been made.

In Florida we no longer discuss "Custody" or "Primary Residential Responsiblity" with regard to who will most parent the children. Now we use the term Timesharing. The parent with the Majority of the timesharing is not the Custodial Parent. That is the person with the child physically at any given time. What a confusing world.

Lets make it as easy as possible: Both parents Share Parental Responsibility. When the child is with dad, dad is the custodian. When the child is with mom, she is the custodian. The Timeshare each parent has is related to what portion of each week the child spends with that parent. Alternating Weekends is still the "fallback" minimum visitation Timeshare used most often by the courts.

When you have questions, call an attorney who understands these concepts. Selecting an attorney who is familiar with the recent changes to the Florida Statutes will help you ensure your rights are honored and decisions respected. Call me at 407-645-3297 or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com

I am ready to assist you.

Why Attorney's Try

I had a call today from a man who wants to see his child. Unfortunately, the last time the man saw his child, Police were taking him away to jail on charges of domestic violence. Three weeks later, should all be forgotten?

Sometimes it is better to take a little time to make sure a situation will not recur. Courts can and will use a Timesharing Parenting Plan to establish a routine for the child to ensure the parents have little opportunity to fight or argue.

Now why would an attorney say, "Wait one more week to see your child?"

Because, despite years of jokes and news items almost daily of attorneys acting in their own interests, many of us want to see children raised in the safest possible environment.
When domestic violence is present in the home, DCF, the Department of Children and Families can move in to take the children from the home and place them in foster care. I do not want any children taken by the state and placed in foster care. There are far too many for which this reality is unavoidable.

In cases where attorneys are involved from the start, many times unpleasantness can be avoided or minimized to prevent things escalating to a point where the State has an Obligation to Protect the children by removing them from the home.

If you find yourself in a violent home, call me at 407-645-3297, I will make every effort to assist you.

Visit my website at http://www.aubreylaw.com/ and learn more about me and the services provided by my firm.

WE PROTECT CHILDREN.

No child should have to see his or her parent harmed, especially by the other parent.

How to Be a Good Parent

In court today, Judge Munyon ( Ninth Circuit, Orange County, Domestic) noted that Good Parents are on time to pick up their children. This got me thinking, what other qualities do Good Parents Share?
1. GP's Cooperate for their children. They work together, recognizing that Children need Stability.
2. GP's NEVER Disparage the other Parent. Parents should Never disparage, or allow to be disparaged, the other parent, in the child's presence. Not speaking ill of the other parent is a good idea for avoiding divorce, as well as dealing in and after divorce. Speaking ill of another says more about the speaker than the target.
3. GP's Cooperate With Their Children. Work with your children to show them Why. Why do I have to clean my room? Because I want it clean. Because I said so. Because . . . how about because a clean room helps you get ready in the morning, helps you find your toys when you want to play, helps you be healthier (use a vacuum to show all the dirt and grime that stays on the floor of even a clean room - how much more filth in a messy room). Answering the Why's in life helps children understand the world around them much more than "Just do as you're told" ever helps them get along in life.
4. GP's give their children time, in quality. I hear people say, "its quality not quantity that counts" but I disagree. A Quantity of Quality time makes good parents out of children.
5. GP's provide for their children. Not because a court order says to provide child support, but because good parents provide for their children. So many college graduates tell of parents working two jobs to send them to school. That Schooling and example lead to a life of Working to better deserve the Good Parents.
6. GP's Always let their children know they are Wanted and Loved. Even when the children are bad, don't eat their veggies, don't share their toys, etc. Good Parents know the difference between Loving Children and approving actions. GP's do this by example. GP's treat others the same way they teach their children to treat others. Teaching by Example that Lying is bad, Sharing is Good, Work is Good, Language is important, Doing what you say is more important that saying too much.

More on Support - this time for the ladies

Here are 7 things every girl should know before having sex, or the resulting kids.
1. Your First Responsibility is to Your Child. No matter how sweet, supportive, loving, cute, etc. the boy is, he will NEVER carry the child 9 months awaiting its arrival.
2. NO form of birth control is 100% effective. The "Virgin Mary" practiced Abstinance and we see how that turned out. (insert laughter here)
3. You are legally responsible for the child, even if you didn't want to have a baby. It doesn't matter that you used birth control, or that you wanted to give the child up for adoption.
4. Child Support includes more than money. It includes emotional support, love, food, shelter, clothing, education, TIME, attention . . . even when you don't feel like it. Even when you are tired, sick, busy . . .
5. A child ties you to the father for life. Not only the 18 years to raise the child, but weddings, funerals, etc. for life.
6. The Father is responsible for child support once the child is born, not matter what your agreements. He is responsible to assist you with medical care before the child is born as well.
7. The Florida Department of Revenue's Child Support Enforcement Program can help. They can: locate noncustodial parents; determine paternity; obtain orders for support through the court system; enforce, collect and distribute support payments to the custodial parent.

An attorney may also assist in these areas. Call me or visit my website at http://www.aubreylaw.com/ if you have any questions.

Raising a child is difficult under the best circumstances. Do not make it even harder by ignoring real issues or avoiding conflict in an attempt to make someone else happy. Your First Responsibility is to your Child.

Child Support

Here are 7 things your "Son" should know before having sex, or the resulting children.
1. You are legally responsible for the child you father, even if you didn't want to have a baby. It doesn't matter that you used birth control, or that you wanted to give the child up for adoption.
2. Child Support includes more than money. It includes emotional support, love, food, shelter, clothing, education, TIME, attention . . . even when you don't feel like it. Even when you are tired, sick, busy . . .
3. You will have to pay Child Support in the form of money until the child reaches 18. Even if you are out of work, in jail, or can't afford your own rent and living expenses.
4. You must pay Child Support even if the mother recieves welfare and food stamps. EVEN IF SHE MARRIES SOMEONE ELSE, who has a good job, who gets called Daddy . . .
5. You cannot avoid Child Support by leaving the state; and certainly not by marrying someone else. Not even by having more children.
6. If you do not pay child support, your credit may be damaged. Your bank account may be seized. Your paycheck may be garnished. You may not get a tax refund you earned. Worse, YOU may be thrown IN JAIL.
7. Only You control when, where and with whom you have sex. It is beyond your control whether the sex you have results in a child. Never tell children you did not want/plan/love them. Being a father begins with wanting, planning and loving the child.
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Custody, timesharing, parenting plans

The Language of Divorce has been changed. No more are there Custodial or Primary Custodial Parents. Now each parent has a timeshareing arrangement intended to provide the maximum contact with the child and lesson hostility and conflict over who has "Custody" or who "makes the Decisions."

In reality, the Florida Legislature in attempting to lower conflict in divorce cases may have inadvertently muddied the waters for a little while. Reality suggests that parenting plans need to be precise to allow the police officer called to the scene to interpret with whom the child should leave the ball field.

All too often, conflict arrises when Dad took little Johnny to the soccer game and Mom arrived to watch. Since it is "Dad's visitation" he wants to take Johnny home to drop him off at Mom's house. Mom naturaly wants to take Johnny home to prevent Dad coming to her house, again, and snooping around who else might be there, or just hanging around hoping to "talk." This scenario plays out in many ways, but the bottom line is:

Precise Parenting Plans Prevent Parental Problems.

Visit me at www.aubreylaw.com for help with your Parenting Plan Problems.