1629 Miles for Thanksgiving

This year for Thanksgiving, we drove to Signal Mountain, just outside Chattanooga, Tennessee, to spend the holiday with my family. My parents still live on a farm there and my brother and his wife had their second child, a boy, the Thursday before Thanksgiving. I planned to cook the traditional Turkey, dressing and cranberry salad at my mother's then take dinner to my brother and his family in the valley.

Just before we left for the trip, my wife learned of her college roommate's mother's passing in Greenville, Tennessee, about 3 1/2 hours north of Chattanooga. Since we were also planning to drive to Durham, NC for the Duke v. Miami game, we made the detour for the funeral. This meant Four days of driving over a 6 day holiday weekend. We left Florida Tuesday evening and made it almost to Macon, Ga., before spending the night. Waking up in Cordell, we drove most of the morning to reach Tennessee; however, just before leaving Georgia, we stopped for lunch at my sister's house for lunch with her and her 3 wonderful children. Later that afternoon, we finally arrived at my Grandfather's farm on Signal Mountain. The evening centered on making the oyster dressing and cranberry salad with groceries brought from Florida.

Thanksgiving Day, I spent most of the morning walking around the farm after putting the turkey in the oven to roast. Mom, Dad and I surveyed the back fence lines and tried to find one corner so we could put the final fence up between my mom's property and that sold to a new owner. After we ate lunch, my brother finally arrived with his 2 year old son, so Andy and I walked the fence lines again to verify proper markings corresponded to the deeds issued by the probate court. After it got dark, Andy took dinner home to his wife and baby, and we planned to follow to get a look at the newest Ducker. Unfortunately, as we went to get in the car, I realized I did not have my keys. Fearing I had dropped them somewhere over the miles of fence line I had traversed today, all woodsy and briar filled, I was rather apoplectic. Thankfully my wife found the keys right where I had dropped them in our room.

On Friday morning, we left about sunup to drive to Greeneville for the funeral. My wife's college roommate's mother had been living in Greeneville, Tennessee, to be near one daughter who could take care of her to prevent having to go to an assisted living facility or nursing home. Ironically, the funeral occurred at Tusculum Baptist Church, across the street from Tusculum College, one of the schools my 17-year old is considering. We drove around before the funeral taking in the beautiful campus and sports facilities.

I'll have to write more tomorrow! If you need assistance in selecting an attorney in the Central Florida area for a Collaborative Divorce, Elder Law, Family Law, Guardianship or other question, please call me at 407-645-3297 or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com

Thanks, Aubrey

Busy Weeks! And this is Summer!

Wow, I have been very busy lately: All day trial as a Guardian Ad Litem; half day trial to a magistrate on Child Support Enforcement; half day trial on Domestic Violence to have an injunction disolved; meetings to establish guardianships for adults, children with developmental disablilities soon to be adults; meetings with clients arrested and charged under Arizona-law like immigration issues, and many meetings to figure out how to stop a Mortgage Foreclosure case where the Bank acted improperly.

As to Domestic Violence: Do Not Touch. If you find yourself in a situation where the other party refuses to listen, touching them will not help their ears to work! Sounds kind of funny, but is deadly serious. If you are touched without your consent, call the police, File a report, seek an injunction, tell the truth. When in court the judge asks if you ever argue with your spouse, remember, it takes two to tango, and argue. Its OK to disagree. Its not OK to force your partner to agree, listen, share, play, etc.

If you are owed child support, the Florida Department of Revenue will enforce your child support order. Inquire at the courthouse. Take your final judgment and child support order and Anna Tangel-Rodriguez will help you (in Orange County, Florida). If someone owes child support you are doing no favors by ignoring it. Driver's Licenses can be revoked, their right to work can be impacted, Tax Refunds can be seized, they can be sent to jail, but only if you let the court know of the missing child support. I meet people every week who are living hand to mouth because they don't want to be the bad guy enforcing child support. Your Children Deserve Better!

Guardianships can be very tricky, very costly, and very necessary. In fact, when guardianships are most needed they are usually most expensive. Acting early to intervene in your elder family member's life may save much heartache down the road. Taking action today can save many problems tomorrow. A Durable General Power of Attorney may obviate the need for a guardianship, saving substantial funds in the process.

Probate avoidance is not difficult with proper advice and representation. Updating beneficiary statements with the bank or insurance company can avoid probate saving thousands of dollars in fees. Transferring title to real estate while retaining a Life Estate or through the use of a "Lady Bird Deed" can help avoid probate as well. Call an attorney if you have questions.

I am available at 407-645-3297, or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com