Busy Weeks! And this is Summer!

Wow, I have been very busy lately: All day trial as a Guardian Ad Litem; half day trial to a magistrate on Child Support Enforcement; half day trial on Domestic Violence to have an injunction disolved; meetings to establish guardianships for adults, children with developmental disablilities soon to be adults; meetings with clients arrested and charged under Arizona-law like immigration issues, and many meetings to figure out how to stop a Mortgage Foreclosure case where the Bank acted improperly.

As to Domestic Violence: Do Not Touch. If you find yourself in a situation where the other party refuses to listen, touching them will not help their ears to work! Sounds kind of funny, but is deadly serious. If you are touched without your consent, call the police, File a report, seek an injunction, tell the truth. When in court the judge asks if you ever argue with your spouse, remember, it takes two to tango, and argue. Its OK to disagree. Its not OK to force your partner to agree, listen, share, play, etc.

If you are owed child support, the Florida Department of Revenue will enforce your child support order. Inquire at the courthouse. Take your final judgment and child support order and Anna Tangel-Rodriguez will help you (in Orange County, Florida). If someone owes child support you are doing no favors by ignoring it. Driver's Licenses can be revoked, their right to work can be impacted, Tax Refunds can be seized, they can be sent to jail, but only if you let the court know of the missing child support. I meet people every week who are living hand to mouth because they don't want to be the bad guy enforcing child support. Your Children Deserve Better!

Guardianships can be very tricky, very costly, and very necessary. In fact, when guardianships are most needed they are usually most expensive. Acting early to intervene in your elder family member's life may save much heartache down the road. Taking action today can save many problems tomorrow. A Durable General Power of Attorney may obviate the need for a guardianship, saving substantial funds in the process.

Probate avoidance is not difficult with proper advice and representation. Updating beneficiary statements with the bank or insurance company can avoid probate saving thousands of dollars in fees. Transferring title to real estate while retaining a Life Estate or through the use of a "Lady Bird Deed" can help avoid probate as well. Call an attorney if you have questions.

I am available at 407-645-3297, or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com

Andy's New Bike

Many months ago I wrote about Andy. He is a child in a man's body. Born 40 years ago with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, his adoptive parents did not hesitate to provide him with a loving home and everything he needs to be as independent as possible. Last week, his bike was stolen. This week he has a new one. http://growingbolder.com/644948.html Thanks to all the bikers of the world, and Tijuana Flats, and everyone with an open hearts to care.

Life is full of opportunities to be nice. Doing something for someone else is worth the effort. Andy knows there are bad people in the world, but they are far outnumbered by the good people.

Live, Laugh, Love.

Rest and Relaxation - Vacation or Respite Care

Everybody needs a break. I just returned from a very busy vacation. Although it included a couple of telephonic hearings and several face to face meetings with attorneys in Tennessee, as well as a three day convention in Charlotte, NC, I returned refreshed!

In only 7 working days out of the office, I returned with new energy. Sometimes work is so overwhelming, we need to step back and let others take the reins while we ride along enjoying the view. My very capable staff managed to address all the client issues that arose in my absence without having to trouble me with calls and emails of any urgent nature.

For many of my clients caring for their aging parents or disabled children, vacations and time away are almost impossible. Although caring for aging parents can tax a person beyond their comprehension, sometimes the caregivers may not even recognize how truly exhausting their job can be. Many do not think others are willing or capable to provide the care; some may simply feel no one else will do the job, or do the job correctly.

Respite care is used to provide care for the caregiver. Most Assisted Living Facilities have programs to allow seniors in need of care to stay for a few days or even weeks to allow the caregivers the time to unwind and relax on vacation. In home healthcare providers also can provide the necessary down time to caregivers when the invalid is unable to leave the home for any reason.

In my own life, my mother took care of my paternal grandmother for 8 years until just before her death in 1987. During that time, I only remember one time she was away from home for more than 24 hours. Although my father had 8 siblings, no one offered a break.

My mother again was the caregiver and took care of her own father for more than 5 years until his death in 2008. In that time, her sister provided two separate vacations of 1 week each when she provided care for her father. Again, siblings seldom see the needs or offer the support so necessary to provide care to disabled parents. More often than not, the love and affection that spurs such care is ignored in the Will or asset allocations of statutes.

If you are in need of assistance, call me. My number is 407-645-3297 and I will be happy to help you. Either by pointing you to resources in your area, or by assisting in setting up your own will so the people providing the care needed are not trampled in the rush to divide the assets after your death, I help people every day to solve some of life's most pressing issues.

www.aubreylaw.com has many Frequently Asked Questions and other resources to provide you needed information.