Boys will be Boys is Demeaning to Men

http://www.buzzfeed.com/inesalmeida/top-21-viral-memes-about-boys-a-must-read-for-any-hixz

When we teach our children outdated gender roles of Masculine and Feminine stereotypes in the home and at work, we are teaching them that people are Different. But what are we really teaching them?

When we say, "Boys will be boys" are we excusing inappropriate behavior and setting up problems in adulthood?

Numerous stories could be written about the entitled masses taking advantage of those less fortunate.
I'd like to take this time to use a different tactic. Boys don't have to be boys and many can choose to be men of honor.

Thankfully, I have a friend in Dave Harding. He is the captain of the Duke Football team and one of the Good Works Nominees honored at the Sugar Bowl last night. http://www.goduke.com/ViewArticle.dbml?ATCLID=209356771

Another nominee is Tusculum College quarterback, Bo Cordell. http://www.tusculumpioneers.com/article.asp?articleID=4390

Both of these student athletes exemplify Boys being Men, taking responsibility for the world around them and working harder than they must to promote those less fortunate.

When you need help this year, call me. 407-645-3297 or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com

Men Only Divorce Firms - Is this a good idea?

One of the many feeds I follow asked the question, "Men Only Divorce Law Firms

What does this mean for the practice? For children?"

 

Responses varied but routinely agreed this MARKETING STRATEGY was INEFFECTIVE in helping families in general and men in particular.

 

I tend to agree. While I have represented many Men in divorces, with much success, I have never limited my practice to me or advertised as a "Men's Divorce Firm."

 

Representing only one side consistently produces inconsistant results and may lead the court to believe an attorney does not truly represent his client's "best interests" but is merely stating the Same Position Again.

 

Effective advocacy requires understanding the Court's view of each Individual family situation. In one family, full-time parenting by Mom OR Dad may be in the children's best interests; however, in a somewhat similar situation, Shared Parenting by both Dad and Mom, with an Equal Timeshare may be the most appropriate Parenting Plan. Having an Open and Objective viewpoint and legal knowledge of the issues at hand are imperative to competently representing a client in a Family Law matter.

 

Attorney Eileen Fein writes:  Some attorneys have noticed that on average, men make more money then women and can pay more fees.. Firms that represent only men tend to market to "men's rights" . and represent mostly angry men. Great strategy for making money. Not so good for families. I think it actually does a disservice to their client in that once the attorney gets that reputation, everyone (including Judges) understand that and the client is negatively typed before he gets a chance to do it himself.      (emphasis added)

 

Another, Jeffrey Wasserman writes: Family Law is what we practice. We do not practice men's or women's law. If you pigeonhole yourself by representing just one side, you can lose perspective on the family as a whole. I have gained a tremendous amount of insight by continually representing both sides and would encourage family lawyers to maintain an open an objective point of view regardless of which side you might represent.      

 

When you have Family Law questions, please call me at 407-645-3297 or visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com . You may also send me an email to aubreylaw@gmail.com 

 

I look forward to hearing from you. Aubrey