Let's try to work without argument

When you receive an email, does it make you sweat? If an ex-husband sends an email, do you just hate to read it? When your ex-wife sends a text message, does your pulse and blood pressure go up dramatically?

Communication with a former spouse can cause all manner of physical impacts. Blood pressure and heart palpitations are certainly extreme examples, but what can you do when you are required to communicate with a former spouse about the children and it really is difficult?

Inevitably, you will offer to pick up the children at 4 and he insists it be 5:30. You offer to feed the children dinner and she insists she has already prepared their meal. Sometimes there was a good reason you got divorced in the first place, and the ongoing communication necessary to coparenting is difficult.

In divorce, communications may stray from the business at hand to rehashing old arguments, lobbing the same tired insults, or making the same veiled threats that began the process initially.

Sometimes the problem is not communication, but many urgent emails and text messages demanding answers ASAP! What do you do when you receive 5 emails before you have even read the first one? Or, you change plans based on one email only to have a followup email request a different plan.

Try this: Send an email saying, "From now on I will read all emails from you at 4:30 p.m. To the extent I can respond, I will; however, if you choose to insult, threaten or otherwise abuse the privilege I will stop reading and will simply forward to my attorneyfor a response to your attorney. Please send only important communications regarding our children. Thank you for your understanding." By setting ground rules for communication, many problems can be avoided. Additionally, if abuse via email is attempted, your attorney is the best person to address the problem.

Remember, if you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you have always received.

If you have questions, Please call me at 407-645-3297, visit my website at www.aubreylaw.com or send an email to: aubrey@aubreylaw.com

Aubrey Ducker

The Law Offices of

Aubrey Harry Ducker, Jr. PLC

2020 Mizell Avenue

Winter Park, FL 32792

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I look forward to hearing from you.