Mediation? Or Collaboration?

What does this say to you?

I am writing to offer my services as a Supreme Court Certified Circuit Civil Mediator. I AM A PERSUASIVE, PASSIONATE AND AGGRESSIVE MEDIATOR.

That was the first line of a mediator who wants me to hire him for my cases.

I am not sure I want that much passion in Mediation. I would prefer a mediator who can make sure the other side Understands the good offer being presented.

Having had two mediations this week for different clients, and one administrative hearing, I am about ready to say NO! I won't do it any more!

For 15 years I have watched people move from Married to Single through the Florida Courts and have not really witnessed a Perfect Divorce. As close as I can come to a Perfect Dissolution of Marriage occurs in the Collaborative Process.

Litigation looks like this:
Preliminary Review with the Client.
Filing a Petition.
Waiting for an Answer.
Filing an Answer to a Counter Petition.
Asking for Interim Support.
Scheduling Mediation.
Preparing Discovery Requests.
Attending a Hearing.
Responding to Discovery Requests.
Taking Depositions.
Preparing for Mediation.
Defending Depositions.
Conducting Mediation.
Attending a Hearing.
Finding an Expert Witness to evaluate the Financials.
Examining the other side's Expert Witness on Financials.
Finding an Expert Witness on Employment and Income.
Deposing the other side's Expert Witness.
Defending my Experts at Deposition.
Attending a Status Conference.
Preparing a Temporary Agreement.
Preparing for Trial.
Attending a Pretrial Conference.
Preparing for Trial.
Getting final Discovery Items to opposing counsel.
Determining what items were not provided by the other side through Discovery.

Collaborative Divorce, Conscious Uncoupling, or NextGen Divorce http://nextgenerationdivorce.com/  or my favorite: http://cfl-cfl.com
offers real alternatives to the waste of time and money that is litigation.

Investigate the difference.
In a Collaborative Divorce, the steps above are transformed into a few meetings with professionals who help YOU DECIDE what happens with YOUR FAMILY. The Judge doesn't decide. The Lawyers don't decide. 

Each of the Collaborative Professionals, the Collaborative Attorneys, the Financial Neutrals, and the Mental Health Professionals who serve as Communications Facilitators and Neutrals are trained and Committed to the Collaborative Process to help YOU Make the Decisions that Affect Your Family.

Please visit our website at www.aubreylaw.com  or call me at 407-645-1330.